Do you have reflective moments where you sit down and just think about your life, how it’s different from “you” from a certain period, what has changed and how you feel about the person you are now?
Or is it just me?
These days, I feel like having enough free time to just sit and wallow in my thoughts is a certain luxury. With work taking away a chunk of my time, the little free moments I have is where all my little indulgences start struggling to take up. I have TV shows to catch up on, language class to study for, family and friends to talk to and keep up with and a million little things tucked in between.
But then luckily tonight I got something I rarely get these days, SOLITUDE! I found myself sat in a room by myself with no noise and just some form of serenity that I apparently have been unconsciously craving. And so I guess as it mostly is with quiet moments, I drifted into my thoughts, which brings me to my earlier musings.
What I have learnt is that I like to a large extent the person I am growing up to be, but there are certain things I would like to change and some habits I will like to pick up.
That aside, one thing that kept bugging me is that somewhere along the line, I lost the fun I used to have. What I mean is that I have somehow taken away the time allocated for fun in my life. I have been so caught up in “adulting” that I forgot that I am still a girl in her early twenties, who has a lot of living to do and who needs to take life as it is, make mistakes, meet friends and just have a jolly time.
And then I realised, since moving back to Abuja, I have only had to do work, work and more work and so my life got programmed naturally that way. Whereas when I was at Uni, I had a routine where time for studying was set aside and so was time for meeting friends. And because a chunk of my chummies are scattered around the world, it meant that there was little need for me to plan or do anything outside of my routine of Work and Home. Therefore home became ground zero for everything outside of work.
On that note, and after spending a chunk of my evening listening to IU’s—pictured above—songs, which motivated me to go out and enjoy my twenties, I have decided that right after ramadan I will be scouting for fun things to do in Abuja. So dear readers, If you have ideas, please share with me and everyone else. And if you know of festivals, fairs and everything in between coming up, please do let us know in the comments. Plus I’m sending out an open invitation to you guys to tag along if you want to, the more the merrier 🙂
Also if you are reading this, I hope this serves as a motivation for you to find “quiet times” in your life that serves as a reflective moment for you to see what your life is like, and what’s working and what needs improving. Time as you well know is fleeting and we do not want to wake up someday and wonder when life passed us by.
Another thing that has really been on my mind is the unfortunate casualties of adulting. It isn’t just the idea of losing out of fun, but the realisation that over time, I got too busy to keep in touch with all my friends. Now it isn’t that I do not think about them, but due to time differences and so many other things, certain dear friends have been left incommunicado. I know some of you are reading this, I promise to try harder and I will be sure to call you soon, insha Allah.
Now I say all this to say that to anyone reading this, life is too precious to allow external factors come in between something as important as human relationships. Sometimes we don’t realise that a simple text just to check up on people we love can mean the world and can be a difference that someone needs in that moment.
I know this post said ‘young, wild and free’, and to be frank the idea for writing this was fitting to that title but I guess like I mostly do with chit-chatty posts I digressed..lol..but all the same I am keeping the title cos I like it and besides this blog is my time capsule in a way so I want to look back at this someday and remember these moments the way I envisioned them.
If you are still awake, hello! how’s everything going?
And if you are reading this at a later time, thanks for stopping by, any thoughts after reading this post?
As always with love,