I remember being a very shy and timid girl just a few short years ago which feels like yesterday in the grand scheme that is life. I always bottled up when put into situations where I had to speak in public. my thoughts came out as a squeal and if nobody heard it, I brush it back to wherever it came from.
I was at a society meeting earlier today and I tried to voice out my opinion of something but my tiny voice was lost in the noise, and if this was the yesteryear me I would have just let it slide, but I said my point again in a louder voice and was heard. This got me thinking as to how I got to this stage and how there might be so many of you out there who are like the old me.
Coming from someone who was at the spot you’re at right now, I’d just like to first say it is okay. You are okay and your opinion is not unworthy or deserving of mockery. In fact you might be hiding away interesting ideas, opinions or even an awesome wit that the world needs to see and hear.
I know it is easier said than done, but with baby steps there’s nothing that can’t be done. I remember the first time I was put in a situation where I had to speak to a room full of people. I was interning at an Arts Centre and it was the beginning of the year when we sign up new members to our courses. I had a room of people lined up to find out about the courses and what they needed to do, I obviously couldn’t be shy or timid in that situation.
I had to give myself a mini pep talk saying how I should be assertive and try it out, if others are doing it why shouldn’t I. Of course it was hard at first, but the more I spoke to people, the more I realized they were actually listening. In the 9 months that I was there, I spoke to hundreds if not thousands of people, by the end of it, I was confident enough to start a conversation with total strangers and address a room full of people with panache!
I say this all to say that if you are working on being confident, you need practice. It isn’t something you learn by yourself. However there’s going to be a lot of mental encouragement involved—you can give yourself as many pep talks as you deem necessary! By working your way up from there you build a foundation for you to believe in yourself which encourages you to be assertive when you talk to people.
Go out there and challenge yourself to talk to strangers. Join groups and societies and get involved. If you are a student be an active member of a society e.g the Model United Nations society of your school or the debating society. If you’re an adult, join a class or attend events. Not only do you meet new people, but you start opening up and blossoming out of your cocoon.The more times you practice, the better you become. That is the basic law in life.
I promise you, the best thing that has happened to me is becoming confident. I have had the pleasure of taking part in a lot of exciting activities, I got to work for an online publication where I had the opportunity to do solo interviews. I took part in cultur and participated in a few MUN— with my latest one in 6 days!
And I met a lot of interesting people….
Good luck in finding your confident side and I look forward to hearing all the interesting things you get up to because of it!
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